You may be struggling to understand your relationship AND your partner. The families you each came from make such a difference. Understand fully how these differences can undermine your relationship now.
HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:
- What well-formed love is
- Where you form the basis for badly-formed love
- What is reasonable to expert from a “loving relationship”
- What might skew or warp your ideas of what a healthy relationship is
- What Dr, Gary Salyer means by “bonded to misery”
- The dysfunctional bond when love is mixed with suffering
Are you suffering as a result of what Dr. Gary Salyer calls “badly-formed love?”
You could be. Suffering is part of it, for sure. And, so much more.
Do you know what well-formed love is? Have you seen it when you were growing up, or created it as an adult? Were you comfortable with it?
Dr. Gary Salyer has been my guest on Save Your Sanity before, and we talked about Trauma-Bonding. He was also on my Emotional Savvy podcast and we talked in-depth about Attachment Theory and Styles. (And, P.S. there are still over 150 episodes available to listen to even though I don’t do it anymore.)
So much wisdom, great insights, and a wicked sense of humor, too. Enjoy!
GUEST: DR. GARY SALYER
Based on a field of study called Attachment Theory, the science of intimate relationships, Dr. Salyer’s insights have a profound and often times immediate impact. As a transformational relationship mentor, he helps people re-write the rules for love in their brains.
After Dr. Gary Salyer’s second marriage crumbled he felt like an utter, complete failure. Rather than give in, he dedicated himself to doing deep research about all things love. He read, researched, furthered his education in the field, talked to experts and to people he loved. Most of all he did the deep transformation work that unlocked his heart and released his soul to love as he had always imagined.
Love and how to make it lasting – became his life’s highest calling—In so doing, he has developed a powerful and effective methodology to make it “Safe to Love Again”
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